Cosmopolitan Magazine – The Orgasm Whisperer
Cosmopolitan Magazine – The Orgasm Whisperer: A sexy smile, good hands, rhythmic hips — no doubt, your guy has what it takes to get you off. But there’s one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing. Experts agree that personal lubricant, aka lube, can make every aspect of sex more satisfying. First, pick your potion. Water-based lubes feel more natural and less gooey (try Sliquid H2O, $12), whereas silicone-based formulas last longer and are water-resistant, making them great for shower sex.
“Start by incorporating lube into foreplay,” says sex therapist Gina Ogden, PhD, author of The Return of Desire. “Have him place a pea-size drop on his fingers before he rubs your clitoris.” Since that spot is made up of delicate skin, a smoother touch will ensure that it doesn’t get irritated. You can do the same for his penis — put a tiny dollop in your palm before rhythmically stroking him.
Using a condom? Put a small amount inside the tip before rolling it over his shaft. “Many guys complain that a condom diminishes the sensation,” says Garrison. “Adding a little lube ups the sensitivity he feels inside the latex.”
When you’re ready to put tab A in slot B, have him place a dime-size drop on his fingers and rub them around the entrance to your vagina, or you can DIY. Warning: Using too much can reduce friction to the point where you barely feel each other, so be conservative — you can always add more.