If Lizzo is right and we really are our own soulmates, it’s time to seriously re-evaluate the way we’re getting ourselves off. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, there’s really no better time to make a date night with yourself and do some, ahem, field research.
“Your sexual pleasure is a journey, not a destination,” says Toronto-based sexual health and consent educator Samantha Bitty. “What got you off in 2010 might not get you off in 2020.” Translation: try new things.
Lubricant is a sex toy’s best friend. Women get the benefit of their sexual organs being self-lubricating, and while it isn’t always enough to use each and every toy without outside help, it is a serious benefit that us males don’t get to enjoy on the same level.
Nobody is out there producing enough pre-cum to stand in for lube, that’s for sure. If you actually are one of the genetic freaks capable of oodles of pre-cum, I’d love to shake your hand. After I’ve seen you wash it, of course.