When it comes to anal sex, lubricant is as essential to success as, well, having a butt—which is to say, very essential. To be clear: You need to be using lube for any kind of anal play, whether a finger, phallus, or anal sex toy is involved. (As a sex educator, I feel the need to shout this from the rooftops.) But, as you may know, if you’ve purchased any personal lubricant in the past, not all lubricants are created equally—and choosing one of the best lubes for anal sex can take your butt play from good to fully orgasmic.

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