We’re almost to our favorite spooky holiday, Halloween! While it is a fun day to eat treats, play sweet tricks, and show us your best costumes – it can be either spooky or sexy! What’s an even sweeter way to liven up your Halloween? Sexy role-play! Role-play is when a person or persons take on a different persona to act out sexual fantasies. Role-play sometimes falls under BDSM dynamics but isn’t exclusive to kink-related fantasies! Have you ever been interested in exploring something with your sexual partner but weren’t sure how to bring it up or felt a little shy? Here are some ways to use your Halloween costumes as a fun and sexy segway to role-playing!

Role Play For Beginners - Male Doctor Examining Woman

Before The Role Play:

Deciding to add role play into your sex life can be exciting and nerve-racking! We’ve all been there, trying something new can cause some anxiety, but hopefully, some of these tips can help to ease that discomfort!

  1. Pick Your Scenario: Fantasies can become a reality, and sometimes they can be really overwhelming! There are so many to choose from. You might be asking, how do I decide on a role-play scenario and how can I bring this up to my partner? We suggest asking in an open-ended way; this allows for the decision to be made between all parties involved and also gives way for honest and transparent discussion around likes and dislikes of different ideas to happen!
  2. Set Boundaries: Once you have established your fantasy and role-play idea, it is super important to discuss the boundaries and parameters of how it’ll all go down. Of course, there is a possibility of the role-play being more ‘off-script’ but it is also important to discuss what is okay for you and your partner and what isn’t. This creates a safe space for exploration and comfort for everyone.
  3. Establish Safe Words/Phrases: Much like boundary setting – establishing a specific safe word or phrase for you and your partner is just as important. Safe words or phrases are something that helps you and your partner understand during a scene, that your limit is reached and that you want it to end immediately. Sometimes things might become overwhelming or feel uncomfortable that you didn’t anticipate; that’s why safe words and phrases are there.
  4. Aftercare: Aftercare is super important once the scenario has ended. Aftercare is a ritual or routine that happens after engaging in sexual or sensual situations; either solo or partnered. Aftercare can be a conversation, massages, eating, hydrating, watching your favorite movie or show, etc. It is a space to decompress from what was just shared together.

Role-play Ideas:

Now that we’ve got some of the technicalities out of the way, you’re probably looking for some ideas to try out and get the creative juices flowing! Here are some popular role-play examples and what they might help bring out in your sexual exploration journey!

Boss & Employee

Boss Looking at employee's short skirt - Roleplay example

This super popular role-play dynamic is often a lot of people’s fantasy. The Boss and the Employee. This dynamic can be seen as a Dominant/Submissive situation where the Boss is telling the Employee they might have to stay a little late to work on a special project; or whatever scenario you might want to add to this! This can also be seen in the reverse where the Employee is the one calling the shots. Have fun with it!


Maid swinging her hair - roleplay example

This role-play dynamic can be fun! Not only does it include dressing up in a hot costume, but it also allows for a dynamic of service/submission to be added to this role-play scenario. This scenario can be really sexy with any addition to the storyline that you might want to add. Food perhaps? Adding food to the bedroom is also a fun time!


Sexy eyes at the bar - Roleplay example

While this doesn’t have a specific costume involved – making it even more fun and creative, this is a super popular role-play scenario. You’re sitting at a bar or restaurant and a hot stranger approaches you. What’s your next move? This fantasy of having sex with a stranger maybe in a public place, or picking them up and taking them home is a wild adventure that leaves you anticipating and wanting more! You can literally be anyone you want!

The Other Person

Checking out another woman walking down the street - Roleplay example.

While we don’t condone or promote cheating – the fantasy of catching your partner in the midst of getting sexy with someone else, or even being the other person has always created a very hot vibe! This role-play scenario also doesn’t have a specific costume, but allows for a lot of creativity and situational exploration! Maybe the opportunity to have a threesome?


Teacher smacking her ruler against her hand - Roleplay example.

This role-play scenario is also super popular. The costumes are fun and easy! In this role-play scenario, similar to the Boss & Employee, you can explore the Dominant/Submissive dynamic or any other variation of it. Maybe you’re the teacher’s pet gone bad! Or maybe you’re two teachers working late after hours!

We hope that this has been insightful and adds a whole lot of sweet treats to your sexy trickery. Role-playing doesn’t just have to be a fantasy – it can also be a way of working through some difficult things in your real life but in a non-traditional way! We hope you have a safe, fun, and sexy Halloween! As always, heaux responsibly!

Heaux on the Geaux

About The Author

“Saniyyah (They/Them/Saniyyah) aka @HeauxOnTheGeaux is a Community Sexual Health Educator, Pleasure Activist, Heaux Mentor, Abortion Doula & Sex Toy Reviewer. They strive to create easy & accessible, free sex education for folks in the Black and brown communities – prioritizing liberation, decolonization & harm reduction. Saniyyah’s goal in their work is to create a world in which sex & shame no longer co-exist; a world in which speaking freely about sex & pleasure are no longer taboo; and as a non-binary, queer, polyamorous person, Saniyyah also emphasizes uplifting & highlighting those in their marginalized communities”

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