Personal lubrication is a wonderful invention that serves many purposes, from decreasing friction to increasing pleasure. When using a lube and condoms simultaneously (hey, way to practice safe sex!), it’s important to have all the facts so you and your partner can choose the combination that works best for you. Part science, part art, here’s everything you need to know to make your condom and lube experience a great one.
Size definitely matters
Thin, ultra thin, ribbed for his pleasure, ribbed for her pleasure, latex, lambskin. The list of condom options goes on and on. Don’t let the variety scare you! This is a good chance to experience which sensations just do it for you and your partner. However, one thing you should not take a gamble on is the fit of your condom. Despite what some people think, condoms are not one size fits all. In 2010, The Kinsey Institute for Research on Sex, Gender, and Reproduction in Indiana did a study and found that using ill-fitting condoms doubles your risk of losing your erection, makes it harder (for both people) to climax, and increases the chance of the condom breaking or slipping. The bottom line is this: condoms should be snug, but not too tight, and go from the tip of the penis all the way to the base. Try on several different options to get the best fit and then be sure to stick with the right size. It will make all the difference in both pleasure and safety. Two other rules of thumb: keep condoms in a cool, dry place and check the expiration date before use.
Is there a “right” lube to use with condoms?
Absolutely! There are as many types of lube as there are condoms, but choosing the right one is not complicated at all. While you may prefer the sensation of an oil-based lube during masturbation, you definitely won’t want to use that when you’re practicing safe sex with a partner. The oils found in personal lubricants can quickly wear down the condom and make it ineffective. Instead, choose a quality water-based lube. Look for a lubricant that doesn’t use glycerin, which can cause yeast infections. Basically, the more natural the ingredients, the better.
Try this: Sliquid H2O
Applying the lube
Put your condom on and put that lube everywhere. Kidding, kidding. While your partner may or may not want to be slathered with lube, it is important to use enough to decrease friction. Applying lube to your penis before putting your condom on can help increase your pleasure. Alternatively, apply a drop or two to the inner reservoir of the condom before rolling it on. Be generous with the lubricant for your partner, too, by putting it on the outside of the condom and on their genitals. Water-based lube does have a tendency to dry out / evaporate faster than silicone lubricant, so pay attention during intercourse and add more as needed. Using enough lubrication will help prevent tears and infections, as well as make sex a slippery adventure for everyone!